How to Find Love in a Bottle
Yes, you can find love in a bottle. And no, it’s not in a wine, spirits or beer bottle. Nor is it a magic potion. But keep reading, this might just change your life.
So where is this bottle of love? Believe it or not, you can find in on the shelves of most grocery stores (and no ladies, it is not a bottle of silky, raw, organic chocolate).
It’s a simple bottle of oil. Well not just any oil. We’ll take organic ideally, either coconut, sesame, sweet almond, avocado or sunflower.
And how do we find love with this bottle of oil? By rubbing it all over our bodies on a regular basis!
Self oil massage is an Ayurvedic practice that has changed my life.
It has so many benefits but the greatest for me is that it’s helped me practice self love. And if you don’t know this little secret about self love, practicing it means that it starts to overflow in all other areas of your life.
The more I’m connected to love and caring for myself, the more my heart is open and loving to the people around me and I fall in love with the work I’m doing.
According to Ayurveda, oil holds the same energy as love, and love is the vibration of consciousness coming into form. So every time we rub oil on our bodies it become a gesture of love.
Daily Dose of Love
I used to slap lotion all over my body just to keep my skin moisturised, but when my Ayurvedic teacher taught me the practice oil massage, explained about the quality of love in oil and the shit contained in most lotions, my whole relationship to moisturising my skin changed.
Firstly, I only use oil on my skin now (read why below) and every morning or anytime I moisturise my skin I’m aware of this energy of love in the oil (even if just as an idea) and as I put it on I feel grateful to my skin and body. It puts me in a mindset of appreciation and acceptance rather than self criticism.
It’s become a ritual that changed how I look at myself. It makes me stop, even if just for a moment, and take note of how I feel. I might give my neck and shoulders a little extra rub, or my feet or hands if they feel sore. It doesn’t have to be a huge ritual, and just this little bit of self care can change my day.
Oil is also grounding and has the qualities of connection and cohesion. When I feel scattered, lonely, exhausted, overwhelmed or my heart feels a bit achy, taking some time to do a little oil massage is like putting myself back together.
It can be a lifesaver when you’re going through big things like breakups, moves, job changes, sickness, ect.
This can be a great time to set more time aside to and make oil massage a longer ritual where you really take time with yourself. Release the stress accumulated in your tissue, improve your circulation of blood and lymph, nourish your soul with lots of love and self acceptance and allow the nervous system to wind down.
Lotions and Creams are Crap
Secondly, our skin is our largest organ and is a permeable membrane. Anything we put on it soaks in and penetrates our bodies. Ayurveda looks at the skin as ingesting the substances place on it, and for that reason says we should only put food grade quality stuff on our skin. Next time you grab a cream to rub on, ask yourself it you’d eat it?
Lotions and creams are a combination of oil and water plus emulsifiers to keep the two from separating. Because of that they don’t really nourish and feed the skin, but just coat it so it doesn’t feel so dry.
Many of them also contain fragrances and other toxic chemicals that can damage, clog or dry the skin. What did people put on their skin before these relatively new products existed? Natural oils!
For my face I use rose hip oil. It doesn’t leave you skin feeling greasy at all and it reduces the wrinkles that come from dehydration and sun exposure. I prefer sweet almond oil for my body on a regular basis because it’s lighter, and coconut when I really need nourishment and deep moister.
Simple Rules for Self Massage
- Listen to your intuition and just massage wherever you’re body is asking for it.
- Massage your feet if you don’t have time for your whole body. Reflexology has mapped the entire body on the feet so you’re still giving whole body love.
- Do long strokes on long bones, circular strokes around joints.
- Stroke moving from periphery toward heart to stimulate lymph and circulation.
- Do it somewhere warm, and use towels that you don’t mind getting oily.
- Be careful of slipping if you do it in the shower, and pore hot vinegar water down your drain every so often to avoid build up of oily film in pipes.
• Nourishes mind and body, grounding, connecting
• Rejuvenates the whole body, including the skin
• Increases longevity
• Delays aging
• Relives fatigue
• Builds stamina
• Promotes deeper sleep
• Enhances complexion and luster of skin.
• Enhances circulation and detoxification
• Releases stress
• Awakens the senses
• Recovers muscle fatigue
• Supports digestion, corrects blood pressure, and supports organ communication
• Shifts the attitude into positivity
• Teaches self-love + self-care
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